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When Relationships Fail, What Does It Really Mean?
Is it no coincidence that when relationships fail we experience the worst in others and we also bring out the worst in ourselves. We also find ways to make it seem like the other person is responsible, and as many of us know it can get pretty ugly.So many people choose to walk away, believing the other is responsible, and they end one relationship, begin a new one only to find out, that what they were running away from the first relationship, is being recreated in the new. All relationships are an opportunity for us to heal our own family of origin issues. Every single one of them, and yet many people have a hard time seeing this or even understanding this. If you have any doubts what soever, I encourage you to pay specific attention to all of your relationships, and when ever you find yourself reacting to something pay close attention to the feelings it brings up in you. When relationships fail and you feel these emotions, realize that this is an opportunity for you to create miracles, and to find in your own heart the truth of what is really happening for you. Taking responsibility, could actually save your Relationship.By taking responsibility you can begin to make very different conscious decisions at a time in your life when you may feel you have no control, and no possibility of moving forward in a way that brings peace rather than destruction and violence.As you begin to heal your own mind, you also begin to see through the anger, betrayal, and all of the defenses that would have you believing the story. Divorce, and separation for many seems to be the way to go, and yet, when children are part of this equation, this should always be a last resort. There is too much at stake, and we continue passing down this legacy, when we don't stop to notice the purpose. When we can stand back, and look at both sides without getting emotionally caught up in our own feelings we do begin to see it differently. When Relationships fail, it may be your wake up call to change the perceptions you have in your own mind.Learning to take responsibility for the part you play, can be one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. Empower yourself, and love yourself for who you are at this very moment. It is an opportunity for you to create changes in your life, and heal your relationships, most importantly the one you have with yourself. Many of us, have believed the cliche that it "takes two people to change" and so we can continue to point the finger out there, at the other person, believing that without their commitment, or contribution there is nothing we can do about it. We can always begin to look at ourselves, and the choices we make."It only takes one person, and that person will always be me."The same applies your you too.
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