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When Relationships Fail,
It is no coincidence that when relationships fail, we often experience the worst from others and we bring out the worst in ourselves. When relationships fail, it may be forcing you to face your fears.We find ways to make it seem like the other person is responsible, and as many of us know what seemed like a loving relationship can get pretty ugly. So many walk away, without realizing how this is a form of separation. A reaction, as we believe the other is responsible. So many end one relationship, only to begin a new one, eventually to discover, that what they were running away from, in the first relationship, has been recreated in this new one. All relationships are your opportunity to heal your unresolved family of origin issues. Every single unresolved issue is like baggage you bring with you, and yet many people have a hard time seeing this, understanding this. Many refuse to even begin to explore this concept. If you have any doubts what soever, you may want to pay specific attention to how you do relationships. More importantly, when ever you find yourself reacting to something in your relationship, pay close attention to the feelings that are brought up in you. When relationships fail, and you feel some very strong emotions, realize that these emotions are old, you've had them before, and that this is your opportunity to heal them. This is your opportunity to create miracles, as you allow your heart to lead you to the truth of what is really happening for you. Taking responsibility, could save your Relationship...The One You Will Always Have With Yourself.By taking responsibility you can begin to make very different conscious decisions at a time in your life when you may feel you have no control, and no possibility of moving forward in a way that brings peace rather than destruction and violence.As you begin to heal your own mind, you also begin to see through the anger, betrayal, and all of the defences that would have you believing the story. Divorce, and separation for many seems to be the only way to go, and yet, if children are part of this equation, separation should be a last resort. There is too much at stake, and being willing to heal your unresolved family of origin issues, could stop you from passing down this legacy. So stop, and notice how you react, and then find ways to respond. Respond for love of you, rather than attacking back.Stand back, and be willing to look at both sides without getting emotionally caught up. Allow your own feelings to surface, and begin to feel them with compassion, and empathy, and find ways to heal them, so that you can do things differently. When Relationships fail, it may be your wake up call to change the perceptions you have in your own mind.Learning to take responsibility for the part you play, can be one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. Empower yourself, and love yourself for who you are at this very moment. It is an opportunity for you to create changes in your life, and heal your relationships, most importantly the one you have with yourself. When relationships fail, what emotions truly come up for you. Heal those wounds, love yourself, and the rest may follow. Many of us, have believed the cliche that it "takes two people to change" and so we can continue to point the finger out there, at the other person, believing that without their commitment, or contribution there is nothing we can do about it. We can always begin to look at ourselves, and the choices we make."It only takes one person, and that person will always be me."The same applies your you too.New! CommentsHave your say about what you just read! Leave me a comment in the box below. |
