What is the Truth, and how do you find meaning through painful experiences?

Searching for answers and this constant need to always analyze or make sense of painful experiences, can often leave us feeling as if we are being lead to many dead ends.

Sometimes the answers are staring us in the face, and yet the way we see our experiences, seem to create what appear to be the dead ends.

These experiences may make no sense on the surface.....yet when we are ready and willing, they can being to make a whole lot of sense from within.

There appeared to be so many unanswered questions, which I desperately wanted answers to.

And yet it felt as if, rather than answers, these dead ends, were bring up many deep rooted emotions inside of me. Emotions like rage, anger, frustration, and rejection. Trying to make sense of these inner feelings, while my experiences in my life appeared as if they were coming from people around me, almost drove me crazy, had I not been willing to work through those feelings. This is the inward journey.

It's been this journey that saved my life, and continues to help me accept and find peace with my reality, rather than continuing to blame or find answers, from outside of my own self.

Looking for approval, meaning, and answers from others, will never be enough. It will never lead to the truth, because learning to let go of what others may say, is just one of many lessons, that continues to teach me today to trust in me. To do my best. To be honest with myself. To take it easy on myself. And to be willing to be the only one who hears me, loves me, and appreciates me.

This has not been an easy task, especially at first, when feeling rejected, and tossed aside, I had to be willing to accept that I had spent most of my life co-depending, and living my life, trying so hard to please others.

I had to accept that I had sold myself and gave everything I had, believing that doing this would make someone else love me, see me and hear me.

I thought I had done so much grieving through the deaths in my life, and yet, grieving this aspect of me, showed me how much more grief I have in me to release.

How do we step out of this place in our minds, by just listening, not taking it personally, and doing my best to have compassion with myself. This is what continues to help me get out of the confusion.

Sometimes in life we have to be willing to let go of the why's and allow ourselves to come to peace with what is.

The TRUTH: The thing you need to overcome is the lesson you need to learn to be the greatest you in your life.

What this work continues to make me aware of, is how difficult it is for me at times to make my decisions, based on what's best for me. This continues to be one of my biggest lessons. To love myself, and make my decisions from a place of self love, when there is a part of me that still believes this is self fish. When every part of my old programming makes me feel guilty.

I'm not a stupid person, and I know that loving myself is crucial. It's one thing to know this in our mind, and it's another thing to know it in our cells. This is where the work comes in. It is a matter of healing this part, and connecting with this inner guidance of love.

Learning to live this way, takes practice, and may feel very scary, and as if you are alone. It is this self love, that with practice becomes a new way of being.

You begin to see things very differently. You begin to sense a new trust in yourself, and you begin to see your strengths.

Life becomes easier when we let go of our own expectations, and and when we let go of the control, and just allow life to be.

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What Do You Fear?

This question What do you fear? Is a good place to start no matter what challenges or struggles you are currently facing.

See this as a starting point, and from here you have a more focused, and clear place to begin.

This is however one the last places or questions we think about, even though unconsciously it is this fear that makes us go to extremes to avoid or hide.

If you can remember to ask yourself these questions, your answers may begin to surprise you. It may even begin to soften your heart, as it brings you to a place where you can begin to allow your feelings to surface.

Answer this question: What is Your Biggest Fear?

The next time you find yourself in a crisis situation, or you are struggling with a challenging relationship, give yourself the opportunity to discover the truth? Once you know your truth, life becomes so much easier.

It can explain your own actions, and how you continue to avoid or hide your fears, from yourself?

What do You Want to Be right about?

Can you observe the excuses you use, such as defending, or justify your self?

Can you see this as a way you protect yourself from your own vulnerability?

You do need to know what and who to ask the questions to, if you honestly want to allow the truth to surface. These questions can only be answered by you, and for you, because no one else can.What would Love Do? Answer it for you, and this may be the confusing part. What would it look like to make your decisions based on Self Love, first and foremost?

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