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Using the work to question thoughtsThe work, is a simple and powerful process that can be used by everyone to begin questioning stressful thoughts. More than what is physically happening in our lives, it's our thoughts about what we perceive is happening that causes us stress. Turning our thoughts around, and accepting what is, can help us find peace. This effective process comes from Byron Katie, and I would highly recommend that you find the time to begin to question your own thoughts....As you see from the above videos you can do the work anywhere, at anytime, and with every stressful experience.
Our Thoughts Create The Stress In Our LivesMy children should clean up after themselves. I should be making more money. I shouldn't be so angry I should be happier. I should have done more with my life. I should be doing something different. My friends don't appreciate me.I shouldn't be grieving. I shouldn't be feeling this way. I should be a better mother. My children don't appreciate me. My daughter shouldn't be smoking pot. My children should respect me. Who hasn't had a thought about something that is going on in their life , where they feel very strongly about it? In asking the questions and doing the turn around, we let go of the resistance, because the stress comes in when we argue with what is. When feeling stressed out about something in your life, do yourself a favour, and Do the work. If you click on the above link, you will be directed to Byron Katie's official website. From there you can print out your own worksheets, and begin this process with your own thoughts.Below, is my own personal stressful thought, that continued to drive me crazy, until I turned it around, and began to notice what was really going on. " My husband, should not neglect his financial responsibilites to his family""Questioning my thoughts.....1. Is it true, that my husband should not neglect his financial responsibilities to his family? Yes it is true. Can I absolutely know that it's true? Yes, I do, it's true. 2. How do I react when I believe the thought ("My husband should not neglect his financial responsibilities to his family") and he clearly is, and has been for a very long time? "I get angry, upset, sad, frustrated, confused, and very fearful of being left homeless as I use my finances to support and feed my children and myself. I constantly worry about how I will my payments. I spend all my time worry, rather than enjoying my life." These are some of the feelings that I experience when I believe the thought My husband should not neglect his financial responsibilities to his family.
3. "If I never had the thought, and yet the same things were going on, I would be curious, rather than angry. I would look into what really could be going on. He could be out of his mind, and I would him differently, knowing what could be going for him. I would let go the thoughts about feeling betrayed, and I would look after my own finances, and stay in my own business. I would find ways to create a more peaceful loving home, no matter what or where that home would be. I would accept my financial situation, and work from there. I would feel compassion for myself, and children, rather than upset, angry and in fear. The Turnaround:So if this is how I could feel without the thought that My husband should not neglect his financial responsibilities to his family, can I think of a stress free reason to hold on to my original thought? No Turn it around.1. The first turn around would be:My husband should neglect his financial responsibilities to his family Could this thought be as true or truer?True, because this is what is happening, and rather than arguing with this reality, I would accept it. I may not like it, yet it is what is happening, and the thought is what creates my stress. The second turn around would be:My thinking thinks my husband should not neglect his financial responsibilities to his family. Could that be truer?Yes, it is, since in my perceptions a husband should not, and yet this have nothing to do with my perceptions. It has more to do with the facts! Another reason, is that during our entire marriage, the financial responsibilities were always mine. That would have been my first clue had been in a different state of mind, years ago.The 3rd statement for the turnaround: I should not neglect my financial responsibilities to my family nor to me. Could this statement be truer? This statement is more truer, because for almost 4 years, I waited and hoped that eventually things would change. I've postponed so many things in my life, believing that waiting this out would eventually change things, and in doing so, I've neglected my financial responsibilities. This is just one example of how the Work of Byron Katie, can free our mind. The thought was mine, and as I asked the questions and turned the thought around, I saw how I continue to neglect.I am grateful for being introduces to the work. It has helped be accept my life as it is, and continues to help me take 100% responsibilities for my own thoughts. It helps me stay in my own business. "It helps me notice how my thoughts create stress, confusion, and separation." If you would like to see this process, in action check out The Work on
Byron Katie's website.
Watch the videos with Byron Katie doing the work for grief, finances, and relationships,
When Relationships Fail, is an audio that comes fromThe Work. If you believe you are currently living in an abusive relationship, and feel like you have no control....I recommend this audio.This is one of those exercises you can do on your own. The work may lead you to the truth. FREE YOUR MIND, WITH LOVE New! CommentsHave your say about what you just read! Leave me a comment in the box below. |
