Finding the Tears for Fears

Finding your own tears for Fears.... means taking the time to grieve and accept all that's not working in your life. This is a very important stage to change. As you find your tears you create a place of healing which moves you which is what emotion means. To move you.

When you begin to notice that you have no tears, and you are not moved by things that maybe should, then it is time to find your tears for fears that only you can change.

Fear is a natural and crucial alarm within every human being and all living species. True Fear is natures way of keeping you safe from harm.

It is an inner alarm system which is your intuitiveness nature.

When this alarm system, becomes dysfunctional and this can occur for many reasons. It affects the ability to function the way nature intended and it can create a defensiveness against vulnerability too unbearable to bear.

Bullying, insecurities, phobias, learning disabilities, and all relationship issues are a behavior or symptom which operates in a state of alarm and when we become concerned about the behavior or the symptoms we may completely miss the root cause. What is underneath the surface. We can multiply the damage, and increase the alarms without being aware of the causes associated with our fears.

Depending on your own experiences during childhood, you could be defended against vulnerability and therefore your alarm system can continue to create a fear factor because of your perceptions on how you see things either real or anticipated.

When you take responsibility for this,you can make a difference which takes place as you heal yourself in the process.

This can be accomplished one person at a time with that person being you if you choose. We all have been and could still be stuck at one stage or other in our own developmental growth.

Our lives are exactly the way they are meant to be at every moment in time. This is sometimes the hardest to accept, yet how can you argue with reality?

As a parent,I am beginning to see my role differently today, yet it really isn't different, it's more of a remembering.

Having seen myself in my children, much of what I see I love and value. I also see my insecurities in there too. I hear the excuses and reasons which have been created by me, with good intentions, yet none the less, this is the part I do take responsibility for. I look at how I can change my self to help them through their own developmental stages, because I as their parent, most definitively know where they may be stuck.

This is an important part of my purpose, it will always be on-going as a parent, and it requires work. There are no quick fixes, and there is no drug to replace the work. Tears for fears is because of the importance of our tears, to heal and accept that which we cannot change.

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