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Parental GriefWhat I know about parental grief, comes from my own experiences of losing my son Tristen, when he was just 8 weeks old. This grief, created one of my biggest fears, and through the years, it almost became one of my worst nightmares.And through this experience, I understood, the meaning of unconditional love, and how loving someone unconditionally, means we need to let go, and surrender. I didn't have a name for it back then, it was just a feeling, and a sense of knowing. Through the years, I found myself trying very hard to make sense of this loss. At times I would feel as if I was being punished by God. I used to blame myself, and as I reflect back, I can see how I have only just begun to wake up. Healing this grief and accepting this reality with compassion, empathy and love. And knowing the difference between my business, God's Business, and other people's business has helped me see through my own perceptions. I am ever so grateful for waking up, because I have seen many parents who never do. As a parent who has experienced the loss of a child, the why's can go on forever if we want them to. Today I know that this is natural and normal and that grieving is different for everyone. My own experiences of grief, uncovered many other layers of buried grief, and this is what it was meant to do for me.
My own experiences brought up deep feelings of inadequacy, guilt, blame, and even shame. These emotions, would come without any warning and continued to make me believe I was not capable of being a mother. These emotions continued to come up years later, and the time had come to revisit that time and place once more. One of the biggest things you can do for yourself is to seek specific counseling or a specific support group which deals with Parental GriefIf you have experienced the loss of a child, share your own story. Take the time to write, and don't be afraid to speak up, and talk about your loss. As you help yourself, you are also helping others. It's okay for us to always keep our children close, no matter where they are, and with your words, inspirations and your story, you can help other parents. Self Healing Expressions may help you, with more ideas.The loss of a child is a traumatic experience, and it lasts a life time, and changes everything. The thoughts and feeling your are experiencing may make you feel as if you are alone, and yet the truth is, you are never alone. By sharing your story, you will find others who feel similar feelings to yours.
Parental grief is different from other types of grief and we are perfectly sane, only forever changed.Speak about your loss, find the support that works for you. It may be difficult to imagine anyone else having the same feelings and thoughts as you, yet you will begin to notice similarities. Listening to others share their stories is comforting, because we begin to see that this grief is different, and no we are not crazy.
You can help others by sharing your story when you are ready.If you would like to share your story please use the form at the bottom of this page. Please check out the links to other websites which may help you. Take the time to grieve. Make sure those feelings are expressed, and take the time to take care of yourself.If you have children, as painful as it may be, always allow them the opportunity to share and speak about their feelings. We may think they are not affected, and the truth is, very different, and you can help them, as you help yourself. Parental Grief Can Cause Many Fears Carol's Journey Share your wisdom with others
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