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Healing the original woundsSo, here we are discussing how to go about healing the original wounds. The funny part if we can even dare to call it funny, is that we already are aware and know all about these original wounds. The truth is we spend so much time, resisting, hiding, and joking about them, and we play them down, over and over.How many times have you heard yourself, or others talk about how they feel as if they've married their father, or mother? How many times, have you told your partner, that they are just like their mother, or father?Isn't it interesting that we jokingly can say this, yet in truth this is real, and we play it down.You are already there, aware, and yet rather than facing this, we spend all of our energy, hating this, or trying so desperately to run away from this. We convince ourselves, that it is irrelevant, and just our imagination. We spend so much time, pointing out the faults, and things we dislike, in the other, and we make it appear as if none of this was or is our doing. For some people, they may even have to enter into another relationship, wait a few years to suddenly discover, that once again they somehow married into their own family of origin, once more. Where Ever You Go, There You Are....Yes, again so many people joke about this, we make fun of the truth, and this energy spent on repeating the same pattern over and over in different relationships, may help you see how, sooner or later, and yes sooner would be better....you can never run away from yourself. We all enter into relationships with our own baggage, our own original wounds. We carry these festering wounds, hoping and hiding, suppressing and so desperately wanting to be loved. We take on the world with these original wounds, which sooner or later erupt to such huge proportions, that there is nothing left to do, but revisit the original wounds!Healing Your Current Relationships Requires That You Look At Your Original WoundsYou can heal all of your current relationships in this moment, as you notice the unresolved festering wounds, because this is what your relationships with your most intimate partners are meant to bring up for you. Yet what we do, is point the finger out there, and blame the other, because we believe the truth is too difficult to face. Too painful and too unbearable, to look at.You many not even see this right now, and yet your life depends on seeing this. The future of your children, depends on you seeing this.Observe it, because once you see it, you can heal it. Listen to all those people who talk about having left their family and their past behind. So many secrets, so many things they feel ashamed about, and yet, what ever you resist, persists. Yes, no matter how "Normal", "Loving", or "Happy" you may believe your family of origin was for you. There is no one anywhere, who can ever truly say, that they have no original wounds, because no ones family of origin, was perfect.Many would like to believe their family was perfect, but the truth is we all carry our own baggage, and programming, and perceptions, which will answer all of your questions if you are struggling with your intimate relationships today, your health, and/or your finances. These are the wake up calls, waking you up to your reality, and to the truth. It's time you grow yourself up, and begin showing compassion and empathy for all of your experiences, and to your own inner child. Begin to notice the feelings and emotions that this process, is bringing up for you to look at today. It is a wonderful process of growth, and love as you begin to see how your experiences and perceptions from your past, no longer need to be re-created, in the present moment. It's a wonderful loving process to notice, obverse and heal the most important relationship of all. The relationship you have with yourself. This is how you release the patterns, and heal the original wounds. There is no right or wrong, way for you to heal these wounds. You don't have to confront anyone, or physically do anything, just heal your thoughts and beliefs. They stem from your own perceptions during your own developmental stages. It is this wounded little child who continues to re surface, and the adult version of you, is responsible to re-parent and heal your original wounds. They are the core issues, and the old programming which are running your life today. It is easy to see and just the lives of many people, as we notice and recognize how they walk around creating by default. It is easy for us to continue blaming others for their misery, and see them feeling sorry for themselves, and believing they are helpless. What part are we playing in this illusion, because we most definitely are playing the part we've been programmed to believe. It may be time to WAKE UP, because we do change our life as we heal our own thoughts and beliefs, and as we consciously choose to heal, we also change the lives of those we love the most. Nothing is impossible. Even the stories, and the behaviors, and the actions you see and hear all around you, can be healed as you accept your part.Get curious, be creative, and Love yourself as you consciously choose to re-visit your family of origin, because this is where you see the truth. I recommend you read John Bradshaw's New! CommentsHave your say about what you just read! Leave me a comment in the box below. |
The Home Coming: to understand your original wounds.You may find this book, by John Bradshaw difficult to read at first. The truth sometimes is difficult to hear, and yet once you hear it, accept it, you can release the pain, as you consciously heal your own inner child, with love.Live is meant to be lived, and as you experience it, rather than just reading about it, or going through the motions, you will discover the opportunities and the potential to create positive changes in your life.
