Grieving has been a very big part of my ReasonsI still avoid this subject because I too am afraid of saying the wrong thing. Even with my own experiences, and maybe because of my experiences, I am afraid of sounding too cold, or insincere. Emotionless is the word. We avoid this subject until it hits us in the face, and have no choice. Yes, I have changed because of these experiences. My heart goes out to anyone reading this page, and who may be going through a Loss. The rawness and the heart wrenching emotions that go with the loss of a loved one, at times can seem unbearable. I know this, and because of this, I am aware of how my emotions have been altered. How things that would upset some do nothing for me. It has been 12 years since the death of my son. I've never forgotten those feelings and emotions, and today I know I never will nor do I want to forget. Today, I accept the emotions,and feelings that still come to me, and I choose to feel them and experience them if the need occurs. Today I understand what was meant by When a door closes a window opens.....Today, I know there is a reason for everything. This doesn't mean I don't think of these losses with sadness. I still do. What it means for me is that I can continue to move forward and also take the time to feel the feelings when they come up.Experiencing the death of a child has changed my whole life. I no longer see it as a loss, yet I will always feel the loss. What I see today that I didn't see years ago, was how this loss has shut me down emotionally. I wasn't okay with this back then because I didn't understand what was happening. I now know today, that there are different types of grief, and sometimes we have a hard time understanding the differences.If there's one comment I can make to anyone reading this, it's to let you know that expressing your Grief is something you should always allow yourself. It doesn't matter how long it's been. It doesn't matter if you feel your loss wasn't that big of a deal. It is a big deal, and it is time you loved yourself enough to see and accept yourself. Until you allow yourself the time to grieve, you do keep it bottled inside. However you choose to do this, is entirely your choice. There is no right or wrong way to grieve Share Your Story, Trust your intuition...Take the time for yourself. When I was in the initial stages of grief, I was grateful for having found resources and groups to assist me. There are many organizations which deal with specific types of grief. Don't be afraid to keep looking until you find one that feels right for you.One on one grief counseling is also something I would highly suggest and again remember, if you are feeling like you are not being heard, or understood, look for another counselor. This doesn't mean that the counselor is doing or saying something wrong. All this means is that they are not a fit for you.We all have something of value to offer and a unique way of expressing ourselves. As Human Beingsthe greatest gift we can give each other, is the gift of listening, and being heard. When we are grieving we are at a most vulnerable place. Always make sure you take care of your vulnerability and respect and cherish yourself. Grieving has no time limitsYes, there are initial stages to Grieving, and then most will understand what I mean about time limits.The time limits are the ones you may be setting on yourself, and then remember it's a good idea to not be concerned about the time. WE CANNOT HEAL ALONE......WE ARE NEVER ALONE.......
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