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Grieving May Feel like a Closed Door
the death of a loved one, a relationship, or the loss of something in your life, can feel so final, and as if a door has closed forever. This experience brings up many different emotions, and they are meant to be felt without questioning whether they are right or wrong, good or bad, normal or not. They are emotions, which our judgments, may suppress, and this is what our focus can help us work through.It's normal to feel as if allowing these emotions to surface will someone have us fall deeper into the grips of this fear, and then we may never find our way again. The Death of some one you've loved, and cherished can feel as if you are being forced to re-evaluate your life. It can make you notice, how you've lived it to that moment, and make many things you once felt so strongly about, feel irrelevant, unimportant, and meaningless. This change can make you look at life from a totally different perspective, and you begin to notice what you've taken for granted before.A death of any kind, and even more so the death of a loved one, can be a very big, and traumatic wake up call. It can be a very fearful place, as you make your way through this grieving process. Are You willing to accept your grief, and to allow this process and fear to surface? Will you give yourself the time?Grieving is a process, and there are no limits as to how long, or as to how to grieve. When we lose someone, grief is the process that helps us accept and adapt and find our way. The EMOTIONS, this process brings to the surface are very different for everyone, and I do believe, it brings up feelings of loneliness, isolation, fear in us all. Whatever emotions come up, it is exactly what we need to allow to surface. Our experiences, based on how we seem them, can and will build up a wall of defense, for our protection, and we may not recognize this wall, because it's a process which can build up gradually, and can go undetected for a very long time. This isn't a good or bad thing, there is no way to judge this because we are all very different individuals, with our own perceptions. What I can tell you is that, the less judgments you put on yourself, the better, and when you are ready, you will notice, and when you find a safe place, where ever that may be, you can begin to choose to allow love to begin to soften this wall.We are at our most vulnerable, during this process and there can be comfort in grief, if you allow this comfort to surface. In your vulnerability are your biggest strengths. With the softening of your heart, you see the innocence of others, and yourself. You can feel the love, and this feeling of love is always within your reach if you are willing to be true to your inner most feelings, and be willing to share how you feel. In my own experiences, what I saw in me was a death, and this website, was a way for me to re-awaken, and share with others many of my own feelings which I was afraid to share. I went from not wanting to live, feeling confused, believing I was going crazy, to seeing just how much there is to live for. Allowing the grief to surface, made it possible for me to see that there is a reason for everything, and everything is exactly the way, it is meant to be. You don't need to have all the answers at this moment, and accepting this truth can change a very painful situation into a sense of comfort, and peace. Feeling the sadness and allowing this process allows the tears to flow once more. Your tears are a gift you want to give yourself for as long as you need.
Love yourself and allow yourself the space, because you aren't broken just wounded in different ways. Trust that you are capable, and trust that you will find your way. There is no right or wrong way to grieve Take the time for yourself, because the stages of grieving are meant to be expressed and shared just as much as those moments of joy and happiness. Find resources or groups to assist you. There are many organizations which deal with specific types of grief. Don't be afraid to share your experiences about grieving because your experiences bring awareness and answers to others who may be afraid to voice their own. We all have something of value to offer each other. We all have our own unique way of expressing and helping others. The greatest gift we can give each other, is the gift of listening, and letting them know they've been heard. If you know someone who is grieving, rather than telling them what they can do for themselves, find the time to listen to them and let them share with you their experiences. Grieving puts us in our most vulnerable state, and in our vulnerability are our greatest gifts, if we allow the process. Take care of yourself, and give yourself the space to grieve.Share Your Story, and Trust your intuition...As Human BeingsGrieving has no time limitsThere are stages of grief, and all of them are an adaption and acceptance, which takes you to the next level. Reemember there is no time limit, other than what is needed for you.Notice whether you are setting these limits on yourself, and be willing to release them. Grieving brings up many different emotions, and allow yourself the time to heal them and always remember love will always guide you through.
WE CANNOT HEAL ALONE......WE ARE NEVER ALONE.......
Your Own Story May BE the Answer to Someone Else's Question.This feeling of grief happens with many events. A divorce, the loss of a relationship, a job, or anything else which you may considered a dream and now feels like a loss.Links you may want to look atGo from Grieving page back to causes of fear page
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Take a risk and speak from your heart and discover that this is all it takes to make a difference.
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