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Finding Love
Everything we do and every single word from our mouth is about Love or a cry for Love. We keep searching for this special someone to fill this emptiness inside and when things don't work out, we blame and move on hoping that this time we'll find that one person who completes us, admires us, adores us. And in the process we may suddenly realize that no matter where we go....there we are. Are you ready to stop running, stop searching because what you are looking for is the one thing only you can give yourself? Wanting to be Seen & Heard........Every single person on the planet wants the same as you....To be seen and heard.....Every single word that comes out of our mouths is either a cry for love, which is FEAR, or LOVE which is all there is. When you understand that this is what every single human being is searching for, can you begin to see their behaviors with compassion and empathy? Can you begin to step out of the story, and see what you see with love?
Relationships can be broken down into two types:1. A Special Relationship is described as a belief that a person is incomplete or flawed, and can only be completed by someone or something outside of themselves. 2. "Holy Relationship" can be described as the "Willingness" to see the Completeness and Innocence of "OUR SELF and OF OTHERS.What type of Relationship are You In????A "Special Relationship" will always make you feel empty and keep you in a State of Fear, because even when you get what you want, it never seems to be enough. You may believe that someone else needs to change in order for you to be happy, or that you need to change in order for someone else to be happy. This creates this sense of fear, and constant urgency to run away, fix it, or find something better, newer and perfect. Many call this "Real Love", and the only thing real about this special type of relationship is that understanding how we create it, can transform any relationship to a Holy Relationship. In fact when ever children are involved, a Holy Relationship is necessary. It is not about finding love from this person, it is about finding love within you, so that your children do not experience feelings of guilt, blame, and everything else that they experience when a separation takes place. Fear, and as a parent this is responsibility to work towards. Find love within you, so that you can make peace and create a Holy Relationship and co parent together. This is your responsibility to your children. This is your business, and you do not need two people in any relationship to go to Holy Relationship. All that's needed is you.
HOLY RELATIONSHIP IS WHEN WE ACCEPT OURSELVES AND OTHERS UNCONDITIONALLYMany people miss the "OUR-SELF"part of this definition. This is the missing part that comes before accepting others. Finding love is find yourself.Holy Relationship is the willingness to see the innocence of self and others. I place no conditions on my love or theirs. I don't require that it has to be a certain way. I don't require that it has to be with a specific form or outcome. I accept myself and others exactly as they are. I do not try to change myself for their love, or try to change who they are for me. This is the definition of a Holy Relationship, and it not about finding love out there. It's about finding love within you, and once you understand this, you don't need to change anyone in order for you to be fulfilled, whole and complete, because you will understand that no relationship will ever do this for you. The sooner you understand this, the more peaceful all of your relationships will be. As you accept yourself you transform your relationships from Special to Holy.. It's called SELF-LOVE....Some of these relationships will be complete, and you will find that there is nothing more to gain from them. If you have children with someone, then realize the ultimate destination is to create a Holy Relationship with this person, and surrender form and outcome. ResourcesFinding Love Codependency Spirituality Finding Love....Must Read for All Parents
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