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How Do Your Feelings Create Your Reality?
Your feelings in every situation create your reality. When you are constantly living in fear you are defended against vulnerability. There is no living in this state of protection and you are stuck and frozen believing your thoughts whatever they may be. You make them real because you are too afraid to question and see this differently. Be willing to begin questioning your thoughts, and be willing to look at your emotions and question them. We are so conditioned to believe that others are responsible for our reactions and sometimes we believe that one day they will notice or one day they will realize how they've hurt us, and yet, how can they be responsible for our reactions, when we can't understand ourselves, and more importantly they have their own programs to deal with?How can anyone else control how you behave or react? It's crucial that you begin to understand your own feelings and more importantly where they first originate. In order to do this, you have to acknowledge them first. This acknowledgment is personal and intimate, and there is no need to share this with anyone other than yourself. When you are aware of them, and can begin to notice patterns then, rather than allowing your emotions to take over your life in the hope than someone will understand, you can be explore and find understanding within you and eventually you will see how what makes you react is not the person standing in front of you saying awful things to you. They are not the ones triggering you and in fact it's the meaning which you give the words you hear which create these reactions. When you can see this, you can begin to see the gift which they are bring you.They may not appear as gifts because you may be refusing to see this as a gift. This gift may be exactly what can begin to heal and restore your true sense of self. We are all meant to heal with our past and this journey is very different for all of us. All of our experiences and relationships today do bring up the unhealed emotions and feelings from our past because only in childhood, during our own crucial developmental stages of life did we form beliefs about the world and our part in it. As you begin to recognize and understand yourself this will help your own healing, and allow you to change what no longer serves you today. Your greatest teachers are in your life at this very moment They may not appear as teachers, because you see them as your partner, your children your co-workers. Everyone you meet on a daily basis has information for you when you listen. They bring to your feelings and the choice is yours whether you choose to cut and run, or choose to question. It is thanks to them that this healing and forgiveness can take place and this is how miracles are created in your life.Peace and Love for yourself comes from your own inner state of mind no matter what occurs around you. Some people believe that loving someone else more than they love themselves is the way to live life, and to find true happiness. This may work for a time, and then it can explode in front of your very eyes, and the question remains, How did I create this? Only this question answered from a place within yourself can really set you free. Only when you can find forgiveness and understanding and take complete responsibility for your feelings will you begin to see the purpose for you. Loving yourself more than you love someone else is how you create the miracles. This is true acceptance of yourself. As you change your own perceptions you heal your own mind, and have the energy to give this love to others. As you love yourself unconditionally you no longer give your power away, and no one will ever have this control over you again unless you willingly give it away again. You also show others how possible it is to love themselves first and to be able to give what they willingly allow for themselves to others.As you begin to accept responsibility for your feelings, and allow yourself the time to heal, the resistance which continued to create more of the same will no longer affect you the same way. The patterns no longer have to be repeated because you have healed that part of yourself which was asking to be heard by you, and you've listened. You will begin to see your growth and some of these feelings will bring you to tears, and give you the courage to be vulnerable again knowing you know longer feel controlled or trapped by their fears because you can now see the difference, and step off and possibly begin to feel compassion and understanding, and no longer be hooked by the stories. Rebuilding your own sense of self worth and self esteem is the goal. Re parenting your own inner child, and as you do this you will notice a new pattern in you, and the reflections you begin to see are positive and loving. These reflections are a mirror of you. Your feelings are linked to your own developmental stages When you understand your own development you will be able to see clearly, and understand those around you. As a parent you will have compassion and understanding for your children, and you will be able to be the parent your children deserve.
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