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Fear to Love...Fear to Love, is the goal. Raising Your Self Esteem is an important step in this goal and in moving forward. Moving from a fear based belief system into a love based belief system.
Your own belief system is responsible for how you see yourself, and more importantly for how much abuse you instill on your own self. Ask yourself: " What is it about me, or this relationship, that has me willing to continue living this way"?Fear, could be the answer. When you are willing to be honest you will find your reasons. The choice then becomes your to continue this way or look at your alternatives. This becomes the first step to taking responsibility and healing your life. All of your relationships, provide you with the opportunity to heal your own family of origin issues. When you are in a romantic relationship, it is because no two people come together without similar family of origin issues. Yes, the circumstances may appear different, and yet the feelings are not. If you don't like how you are treated, and if you find yourself constantly triggered, you are the only person in your relationship who can change this by being aware, and changing your own reactions. Every single relationship, from your spouse, children, friends, bosses, can bring similar feelings into your current life so that you can heal and move on. As you begin to recognize these feelings you can begin to see them differently. Layer by layer, this life long process, bring you opportunities to change your thoughts about what you believe is happening to you. This new reflection begins to be mirrored back to you, as you continue to heal your-self.For some, this will create a more loving relationship with those around. For others this change may have you moving away from current relationships. Moving from a fear to love based belief system is the answer for everyone when it comes from a place of self love and respect. It is how you honor yourself and everyone else in the process.Remember, no one can do anything to you against your will, and it becomes your responsibility to notice how you do not honor yourself. This makes it possible to choose again, and to see it through a different perspective. This makes is possible to see it through from a love based belief system. Moving from fear to love, is a process which can take some time. It will take as long as is needed for you. It involves that we begin to move from what some call a special relationship into a holy relationship. Whether you believe it or not, The definition of a holy relationship is one where we begin to see through the ego, and into the soul. When you look in the mirror do you see the eyes of god? When you look into the eyes of another, do you see the eyes of god?For some of us the dream has been the perfect house, white picket fence, an abundance of money, etc etc. We will do anything to hold on to that dream, and at what cost? As we begin to face our reality, and acknowledge what is really going on, we know that letting go of the dream is necessary. Letting go of form and outcome, and moving from fear to love is possible when you step out of the picture in your own mind. 
Your thoughts and beliefs are energyYour thoughts and your beliefs are powerful forces of energy. When you point your finger out and blame others, you give your power away to them. Look around you right now, and notice how you feel about what your thoughts and beliefs have created. If you don't like what you see, it is more that possible to begin taking responsibility, and you can move through your own fear based belief system into a love based belief system.
Begin to recognize your own feelings, and write them down. As you begin to acknowledge the feelings, and your fears; accept them, because they are a part of you. This step will allow you to begin to release and let go of blocked energy, and even though you may feel a door has been closed forever, it is the process of allowing you to notice the opening of another. Imagine your fear as a gauge to help you recognize what you most need to look at in your own life. This can be an exciting opportunity when you know that you can work your way from
fear to Love.
Some Points to Relfect on*Accept yourself as being whole and complete exactly the way you are at this moment in time. Moving from fear to love is a process, and it takes place exactly the way its meant to.*Whenever you notice negative thoughts entering into your mind, change them, and believe that you are capable of working your way through anything and everything! *Choosing to work through your own fear to love is a choice, and you can always choose again. *Give yourself permission to take care of yourself. As you give yourself permission you also give others permission to do the same. * Unconditional Love is the goal, and non attachment to form and outcome. All of this more importantly begins to raise your level of self esteem, and self worth. You will begin to notice this as you move from fear to love. Begin to do everything you do from a place of love for you. You will begin to see the positive effects these changes have on your life, and you will begin to recognize the Power you have within you. Be the change for your family, community, and your world.
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