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Looking at our Own Family of Origin Helps Us Make Sense of Our Current RelationshipsOur " Family of Origin  " is one of the most effective ways in helping us all understand and make sense of our current relationships today. When we can willingly look and explore our first family and observe our own unresolved "baggage," we can heal every single relationship today. When we can accept responsibility, as we understand how we bring all of this baggage with us into every single relationship, we help ourselves make sense and take control of our life today. As hard as this may be for some of you to believe, The emotions and the feelings you are experiencing today, originate here.Not looking into your family of origin, can be devastating and destructive in your life right now. If you really want to take control of your life today, looking at your own family of origin, and beginning to make sense of the meanings you give your experiences today is crucial. Your beliefs, and perceptions, and the feelings which come through with your emotions, are very deeply connected, and if you are already sensing that you are turning into your parents, and believing you are going crazy, you are the lucky one, because you already see it. Many people however, have a difficult time seeing this, because they are so far removed from themselves, that they've forgotten. These are the people who would rather blame everyone and everything. These are the people so deeply defended against this vulnerability, and there is nothing anyone can do to convince them, because they have their own path to follow. Many of our own beliefs about ourself, are so subconsciously connected to our own earliest experiences, and The Meanings WE Gave To all of Our Experiences, are where the healing begins. Changing and releasing those beliefs that no longer serve us. It's never too late, and it doesn't matter whether those experiences happened 10, 20, 30, 50, or 60 years ago; they will surface today, and continue to surface over and over again. It may be time for you to observe them, and HEAL. Some of you have already begun to be aware of this, and others may need some assistance seeing the connection. If you are truly wanting to change the direction of your life today, you must be willing, and committed to looking at your own family of origin.You might wonder, so what is the opportunity? Very simply, to heal your own unresolved family of origin issues. To put a stop to the abuse, control, and the violence and drama in your life today. Only you can decide just how important and how badly you want to heal your life today. There are no coicidences, and everyone who enters into your life today brings with them this gift, and this opportunity. No two people come together today, "without similar unresolved family of origin issues, so if you believe your intimate partner is abusive, controlling, and violent, you can believe the story and continue showing your children how to do the same, or you can accept responsibility, and heal your self. This was my choice a few years ago. I was fortunate to have begun to see this recreation in my life. Yet at the time, I just thought I was going crazy. There was nothing crazy about me, I was going out of my mind, and I am so grateful today, for having the courage to remember and find exactly the support I was looking for. The purpose of all relationships is to heal those unresolved issues grow ourselves up as we release the false perceptions and build ourselves up with love, because this is how we change all of our relationships today. This is the context of relationship and this is how we heal the most important relationship of all. The one we have with ourselves. If you are willing to understand and keep your mind open, this simple concept will transform your life completely. It can heal your relationships today. To quote John Bradshaw:
"When you heal with your parents your whole world changes" The Truth of this matter is that "Wherever You Go There You Are. You can never run away from yourself, and yet this is exactly what happens when relationships end, or the going gets too rough. So many people walk away from relationships, believing that someone else is to blame. Some blame each other, some blame themselves, and the truth is, we do it all. The sad part is when many walk right into another relationship, destroying their own family, unwilling to look at themselves, only to discover years later, that this relationhsip is exactly the same as their last, or even worse.It may be time to stop running. Only You Can Decide, and Choose differently.Remember CHOOSE LOVE 
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I Need Your Love, is that True Scientific Evidence to heal yourself Take the time to write your own story because taking it out of your mind, and putting it to paper, is a way to release your pain and release the resistance. If nothing else, then see this as a way to difuse and help your family today. Write down as much as you can about your own childhood, and as much information as you can remember about your own parents, their childhood, and just notice the feelings that come up for you. This may take days weeks, or months to write out. What you may notice are similarities, and patterns, that you had never been aware of before. As you reflect back you can change the direction of where you are today. Share your wisdom with others
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