Emotional abuse and how we can change this in ourselves

As John Bradshaw would say, we have all experienced emotional abuse to one extent or another. As adults we may continue to believe we are still being emotionally abused by people we have relationships with, and I am only beginning to realize how I am responsible if this is a situation I find myself in. This is the part where many people become confused and this is the part where I would suggest you begin to focus on the feelings and emotions these words bring up at this moment is the key to finding the answers for our own selves.

I chose to begin sharing information and resources with others, because I believe I have found what works for me, and sharing with others is a way to pay if forward from one person to another. I have been searching for peace, acceptance and love from the day I was born, and I am discovering that I never needed to look very far. I am finding that this lives inside of me.

We all have our own stories of emotional abuse, and by healing the emotional abuse from our past, we heal the abuse in our lives today. I've had many thoughts about myself which were well ingrained in my own mind for most of my life. At almost 48 years of age this feels like a very long time, and yet it feels like only yesterday. As I reflect back I see that the harder I tried to please others, the worse things became. Today, I am grateful for reaching a place in my life where I believed there was nothing I could do to help myself. Believing I had no choice, led me to where I am today.

Today thanks to my experiences, I have choices, and I always will. Emotional abuse is just a word we use to explain emotions and feelings, the use of this word is not what heals us. The healing begins when we begin to explore the reasons and this can only begin with me. Your healing can only begin with you.

Peace begins with me, and today this is the reflection I see more often around me. I am grateful and thankful every day for this reflection, and when this reflection appears fearful, then I know I have more work to do.

You can see the same reflection and become accountable for your own personal state of being.

If there's one thing I would like to change at this time, it would be the fact that I still find myself forgetting to live in the moment, and keep looking forward to tomorrow. This is how I lived my life as a child, and it takes a while to change some of these feelings from our past. There is a part of me which can be very impatient at times, and I've come to accept this in me. It is my inner child, and it's asking for attention. If there's one thing I do my best at reminding myself of is that I accept myself unconditionally ,whether I live in the moment, whether I'm impatient, or whether I'm grieving, and feeling vulnerable. Accepting what is at every moment in time.

Learn to see your FEARS, your triggers, your reactions, standing in your way for a purpose. Bring yourself into your feelings, and find that purpose. Listen and notice where they take you. Learn to see this opportunity as a way to heal your life and break the cycle because your emotional abuse can get passed down to your own children. Pass down a new legacy of love and peace by doing your own work and leading by example. As a parent this is your responsibility.

I wish that the love you have for your children encourages you to wake up and take the steps to heal your life and forgiving yourself.

Trust your intuition and always do your best to come from your highest good. What's to your highest good is always to the highest good of everyone around you when you can come from a place of self love.

Be encouraged by the stories of others, and be willing to share your own.

Creating a healthy peaceful and loving reality for your family begins with you.