Destructive Self Talk..... What Messages Do You Send Yourself?

Destructive self talk affects the clarity of what and how you communicate to others naturally, and even more importantly to your self!

Your own inner self talk, is an extremely and very important matter for you to pay attention to, because this says a lot about how you see yourself. When you notice how you instantly continue to put yourself down, you can start changing this as quickly as noticing, and yes, making the correction, immediately. These are the messages you send to yourself constantly, and when this is how you see yourself, how can you ever create positive healthy relationships, and respect? Your self esteem and your own sense of self worth is at stake, and if this is the type of self talk to give yourself, how can you expect anyone else to give you anything more than this?

At first you may not realize you are even doing this because it's become ingrained in your subconscious, and it is second nature to you. it's a habit, and it's time you choose to change the way you communicate to yourself, because once you do, others will too!

There is an excellent little book I recommend you read called:

The Four Agreements

Here's some more useful information to question and ponder

Practicing and applying this to you, and your own life will bring you the results, and changes. As you notice what you say and how you say it, you can begin to do it differently.

You will always have opportunities to practice and do it differently.

Thing about leaving a message on an answering machine. Some would think it's no big deal to leave a message like: "Hi there, it's just me nothing important, call me back if you have a minute." In that one sentence, destructive self talk was used 3 times.

Notice your choice of words, and what you really wanted to say. Do you ever feel as if you are bothering someone? Yes, pay attention to your feelings. Now redo the message. How would this one sound instead? "Hi ....., this is....., I have something important I would like to talk to you about. Please call me back at soon as you can."

Destructive self talk, not only makes you feel powerless, and unimportant, this is the message you send out to everyone else too. Most importantly, you give your power away! Then you wonder why people treat you a certain way.

Remember, it's a habit, and it becomes a condition that comes out of your mouth, and comes from your own thoughts about yourself. The good news is, you can control this and change this.

Links

Communcation Breakdown

Resources

Your Self Worth

Inspire Yourself