Your own inner critic, is an extremely and very important matter for you to begin to pay attention to, because this says a lot about how you see yourself, and the same way you see yourself, affects your life today.
These affirmations whether positive or negative affect everything in your life today. When you notice your thoughts continue to put yourself down, you can begin to change your thoughts, and make the correction. The messages you send to yourself give you exactly what you ask for. If you want positive healthy relationships, or feel as if you get no respect from others, focus on your own self talk.
Look at your self esteem, your sense of self worth, and when you constantly put yourself down, how can you expect anyone else to give you anything more than what you are willing to give yourself?
You may not realize you are doing this because your own thoughts and beliefs about yourself are so ingrained in your subconscious mind. They are habitual, and second nature. It's a habit, and it's time you notice the way you communicate to yourself. As you change how you communicate to yourself, others will too!
There is an excellent book called:
The Four Agreements
If you are interested in learning simple ways to stop sabotaging yourself with your destructive self talk and find simple clear ways to begin living your life to the best of your abilities, I do recommend that you read the book, and begin to live your life by The Four Agreements .
Become Aware Of Your Thoughts
Practising and applying what you learn into your own life is how you create more health, love, respect, and peace. Pay attention to what and how you talk to yourself, and make the effort to do it differently. You will be so happy that you did, because you will begin to see your life and all your experiences in a more loving way.
Take the time to read the books on my recommendations column, and remember that there are messages all around you, and all you need to do is notice, listen, and remember you are the creator of your life.
Thing about your choice of words. It is a big deal because as you become aware of the words you use, these are the clues that help you.
Notice your choice of words. Notice every time you hesitate. Notice what you really wanted to say, yet were afraid to. Notice every time you if you are bothering someone. Yes, pay attention to your feelings, and then re instate your choice of words, change them. You can always change them.
Destructive self talk, is how you make yourself feel powerless, and unimportant. This is how you keep yourself a victim, and these are the messages you send out. This is how you give your power away! So the next time you find yourself wondering why people treat you a certain way. Notice what you were thinking and feeling at the time.
Remember, your destructive self talk is a habit, and as you notice this habit, you can consciously choose to turn it around.