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Causes of Fear
What are the causes of fear and how does this fear affect you? You may never have looked at your life this way, and this is something only you can determine for yourself because it is as individualized as you are. What if the negative experiences you are having in your life right now stem from the fears which are based on your own personal experiences and the meaning that you give those experiences?
Fear is a very healthy, instinctive and a natural built in alarm system that is part of everyone's biological makeup. Fear is meant to take over when we are dealing with a life or death situation, or when something alarms us. Fear warns us and keeps us safe, when fear is working the way
What if the problem arises when this alarm system functions from a place of dysfunction? This dysfunction can be caused by many experiences. It could be the result of repeated and ongoing abuse, neglect, or any other traumatic situations. It can also be the result of very subtle and non traumatic experiences. It could just be a repeated pattern experienced over and over. What if the causes of fear stem from the messages and perceptions we take on during our own developmental stages.
This is what forms our beliefs and what creates a pattern in our own brains. This is what can create a constant fear in us without us even
being aware of this fear.
The way we experienced our childhood therefore create our perceptions or beliefs. These beliefs are responsible for creating
a false sense of fear
which at times makes us feel we have no control over in the present moment. This is because we may not even be subconsciously aware of our fears, other than they have caused us to react in ways that make no sense to us. We can't even explain why we feel the way we do, other than something doesn't feel right.
As you begin to look at
your own childhood experiences,
and understand your own developmental stages, you can begin to recognize the impact of your experiences. More importantly this will help you understand how this is still affecting you today. The good news is that you can change these beliefs which are at the core of your fears and create a positive and healthy home base from which to build your own self esteem, and work through the false fears which could stopping you from living your life to it's fullest potentiality.
Your thoughts determine how safe you feel, and only you can choose to release the patterns and break the cycle.
An excellent way to observe your own thoughts and notice your fears is to focus on your thoughts for a few days. Pay attention to these thoughts. Write them down. When you begin to pay attention to your thoughts you can begin to explore the beliefs you have.
If you find yourself reacting to situations or comments someone else has said; use this opportunity to look at the feelings it brings up for you. Notice what it was about the situation that upset you.
Whenever we are triggered or react to something it's usually because we've associated this to a passed experience. The feelings and emotions which come up are usually very similar to a passed experience, and have nothing to do with the present situation. Understanding this, is what help overcome the fear associated to the experience.
You own sense of self worth and self esteem are also connected and affected by what the causes of fear were for you during your developmental stages. This is how two individuals could experience a similar situation very differently. It's all based on their own past experiences, and their own perceptions about those experiences.
As I've mentioned earlier, there are ways to change these false fears.
You first, have to want to change, and you have to recognize that this is a way your ego is protecting you. Fear is doing its best to keep you safe. Begin to see these fears as a way for you to become curious and begin exploring. Look at your past experiences through the eyes of an adult. Recognize your own "core issues" and begin to grow yourself up. Be willing to do your own work, because this is how you recreate a healthier and more functioning "alarm system". One that is not constantly on the alert, but one which gives room for a safe, and secure home base. You will begin to recognize the difference.
You may be wondering why would I want to do that?
This decision is one only you can decide. The reasons you would want to look within are your reasons. All illness, diseases and wars originate from fear. There is many different scientific evidence that proves this. By understanding the causes of fear in ourselves and by seeing the way this fear affects our own relationships, health and well being we can also begin to see how we each have a choice to change this.
Family of Origin plays a big part in the causes of fear.
Your Childhood is where the Causes of Fear begin for you
Bruce Lipton
through his own scientific research has proven that this instinctive alarm can be felt as early as 6 months in uterus, and there are many more who feel it goes beyond this. Every being of our cells is affected, while still in uterus by our surroundings and by the emotions of our mothers.
A Child's Developmental Stage
therefore is the most crucial time and this is what sets the stage for life. By taking the time to discover the causes of your fears and how they affect your life will help you change this in your own legacy.
Understand your causes of fear and how this is affecting your life now. Your past experiences could be responsible for your relationships today, you health and the way you live your life in this present moment. You can change it all because as you change your perception you change your reality!