Self Awareness is What Leads To Solutions
The Awareness, from you, is what leads you to solutions in your life. This is a necessary step towards successful change, and towards understanding and
accepting responsibility
for everything which is not working in your life today. This self-discovery either begins as you notice a constant repetition and unbalance in your life. It may happen as you hear yourself making up
excuses for others or yourself over and over.
It will happen when you notice, and no matter when it happens, it is exactly perfect. One day, you recognize that the excuses are always the same, you recognize the same patterns being repeated and suddenly you notice that this has been going on for years. You may notice a feeling of constant uncertainty. Some people may experience a life altering event which makes them feel as if they've hit rock bottom, and there's no where else to go. Some people will experience an unexpected break up, which always seems to happen a certain way. Whatever it is, only you will know, and understand. This awareness, can come in many shapes and forms. Whatever the picture looks like, it can only be changed by you, for you and it will never work when you do it for someone else. Sometimes the experiences may catch you completely off guard, and leave you feeling shattered and hopeless, making you question if and how you can ever get yourself back up. In my own story, many of my experiences which I refer to as wake up calls came as a death of loved ones. This loss felt too impossible to bear, with feelings of guilt and shame over my role as a daughter, parent and finally a wife with my own marriage breakdown. This is how it was for me. For others, it can come in the form of financial difficulties, teen age drug abuse, or a major illness. 
Life is full of struggles, and challenges and it can also be full of opportunities. It is not so much what happens to us, but how we cope with what happens that is the key. How we see and give meaning to what happens to us, and it is in the way we see it, and how we perceive it. The old saying what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, can seem
too hard to swallow at times.
Yet, every experience has a purpose and knowing that this purpose is exactly the way it's meant to be is part of the journey of healing and accepting what is. This doesn't just happen overnight. It happens when it's meant to happen, and it begins to happen when you begin to see things for yourself.
Healing yourself comes from your awareness,
and from your own desires and motivations. This is what begins to help you begin to take the steps to
accepting responsibility
for your own happiness, and for your own life. Accepting yourself, exactly as you are, is what this awareness is ultimately meant to do, because this is where you heal and continue living your life
on purpose.
Once you understand this, you begin to be clearer about how there is no one to forgive. Learning to love yourself unconditionally begins to grow on you as you do your own inner work. It's this awareness which continues to lead you and encourage you to find the balance and as you do so you also begin to increase your own self esteem and self worth in a way which may be completely different than you've ever imagined. This creates the change in you which changes what you see around you, and creates the miracles which you may have only imagined until now. Your own self awareness is what makes you curious to begin to
look beneath the surface,
to the cause. This is where this understanding and awareness comes into play and begins to make sense. What's beneath the surface is where the healing occurs as you begin to understand how your behaviors are a form of communication and has been a way of keeping you safe, until you are ready. When you understand more about the feelings you've resisted, all of this will help you begin to see the behavior differently. You can begin to positively change the setting events, which are creating the behaviors. Your motivation and desire to take the risk, will come for many reasons.
As A Parent, it may come as you see yourself in your Children
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